I have to admit that I feel like a bit of a dummy when people ask what my New Year’s resolution is. “Uh, I don’t really make resolutions…” I reply. This usually evokes a “Whhhhaaaat?” but it’s the truth. It’s not that I’m against self-improvement- I’m all for it! When Todd and I were dating I would ask him what things I could do better in order to keep my blind spot flaws to a minimum. He would pause for a moment and thoughtfully ponder the question only to come up with such answers as, “Dry your feet in the shower before you get out so the bath mat stays dry,” and “I don’t like the flavor of Capri Sun that you always buy,” Side note: Wild Cherry is the best flavor of drinks that come in silver pouches, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
I feel like I’m always on the hunt for perfection in all areas of my life (my brain is “type A” on steroids), although I certainly don’t achieve it most of the time. But it’s the striving and stressing for perfection that leave me a little weary of January resolutions. Believe me, if there was something I thought I wasn’t doing well enough in early December, there would already be documented hours of lost sleep, hand wringing, and goal planning before the New Year countdown had even begun. In fact, if anything I need to let go of what’s not perfect and stop beating myself up over things that really aren’t worth the effort.
This is why I’m thankful I have my guy.
Todd is the master at being content. There’s not a material possesion that he needs or greener grass elsewhere or a personal flaw that can make him freak out and lose his cool. He’s all for growth, maturity, and change, but he doesn’t let the pursuit of those things stress him into an unhealthy situation. Like Conan during his late night monologues, Todd looks out at the world and says, “Be cool my babies…” and I think I need little more of that in my life this year.
So be cool 2014, be cool…
I think that’s a great way of living your life, and so nice that your man has that temperament. Have a great 2014 🙂
Laura I will definitely be taking these words to heart for 2014. I am a perfectionist and it’s time I aim to be cool too. Happy New Year! xox
You two are so cute together. –Hanna Lei
I agree that resolutions are not awesome for perfectionists. It’s just another thing to be OCD about, and not necessarily productive. PS Where did you get those tights??
I have that dress!!!! Also, y’all are cute together. Happy New Year!
I was never a resolution-maker until 2012 when I started making (and have kept) one every year. This year I’m abstaining from fast food for 2014. I hear you on the “if I wanted to do it, I’d already be doing it thing”. I’m the same way. I usually start thinking about what I want to do a few months ahead of time and once I decide on one, it begins right then and there. So even though I “make” a New Year’s resolution it’s more like a mid-December resolution.
You just described my marriage perfectly!! I’ll be sharing my resolutions on my blog tomorrow, but I’ve always hated (and never made) them…and for the same reasons as you. Against my better judgement, I’m giving them a whirl. My husband said he knocked 2013 out of the park so he didn’t need any. Ha!
I too have a problem with perfection. This year I’m trying to let go of that a little, because frankly I’m FAR from it! lol