December 14, 2018
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Whatever Lola Wants…

Ho, ho, ho! Santa will be here soon and I’ve been busy gathering presents ideas for Lola, dressing her in holiday pajamas, and imagining how delighted she will be with some of the small things I’ve gotten her (like kitty sticker sheets!). I’ve been hiding them in my office and I’ve compiled a little present hoard for her that I can’t help but keep adding too. Here are a few other things I’ve been eyeing for her lately!

I think I need some of these to go under Lola’s dresses—I used to have some when she was smaller and they are so helpful as it kind of ruins a cute look to see a diaper underneath if you ask me!

Now that Lola is a little bigger, she needs silverware that’s a little bigger too so I ordered these stainless steel utensils (we also used the baby size set with her too) and these deeper spoons for soup. All toddler spoons are too shallow for soup and our normal size spoons are still too big for her mouth so we’ll give those a try instead!

Deciding between this and this dress for Lola’s New Year’s Eve dress! Which do you think?

I can’t wait for this darling sweater to arrive! She is definitely short on sweaters so I need to find a few more cute ones soon…

I don’t know if she would keep them on this winter, but she’d be so cute in these! I wasn’t sure she would wear a scarf, but it looks like this one loops through itself so I feel like there’s a much higher chance of it staying on.

Lola’s been grabbing the microphone ornament off the tree to sing into it so I made her a wooden version and she loves it! You can also buy one like this  if your little one loves to jam out too.

This patchwork fur coat! Or this tone on tone blush one is so good too.

We went into Pottery Barn Kids to buy a present this weekend and she went straight for this tea set and started pouring the tea and pretending to drink from the cups which totally blew me away! I can’t believe how much she totally understands and can mimic already—it’s amazing.

Bought her this sweet reusable sticker book as a stocking stuffer—she’s so in to stickers right now but she wants them to all be reusable (which they haven’t been) so I think this will be a big hit! Also, I just bought these stacking dolls for a last minute stocking stuffer and I know she will love them—Todd’s Mom has a few sets at her house and Lola thought they were so cool.

Uh, love these boots and they actually look warm too which is a big plus. These little slipper socks I got to keep her feet warm around the house are great and so are those grey ones in the photo above, but she’s grown out of her warm outdoor boots so I’ll have to add some of those in her size soon.

I know this time is about so much more than presents, so I’m soaking in all the “free” joy that comes with the season as well and I hope you are too!

xo. Laura

December 13, 2018

Holiday Home Tour 2018

Just wanted to share some holiday home photos with you all to celebrate the Christmas season! Our stockings are hung by the chimney with care and I am loving how much Lola is fully into all the lights, music, and treats of Christmas so far—it’s absolutely precious. We’ve basically been listening to this album on our record player non-stop and she gets really concerned and upset when a song is over and so happy again each time the next one starts. I have some amazing dance videos of her with some new moves she pulled out for the holidays and it brings me so much joy that I selfishly keep the tunes coming just so she’ll keep dancing… Decorating with her favorite lovie Kit Kat the bunny.We made a “Lola tree” this year so she could have a tree full of plush and soft ornaments to take off and on as much as she pleases in hopes of distracting her from the bigger tree right across from it.  While that definitely hasn’t totally worked, it’s still fun to give her a tree all her own and she likes to take them off and try and stuff them in the bottom of the real tree to join the others over there—ha! I love that she kind of looks like an old-fashioned cupie doll in those knee socks with her updo and bodysuit…what a sweetie.   I have a few DIY things that I bring out every year like that CHEERS sign and my white tree (I think it was from Hobby Lobby years ago but this is similar) but it’s been fun to mix in a few new things this year too. Those blush velvet chairs are everything to me right now—so pretty!! I love to use letter boards and change out different phrases for special occasions and seasons and those 2″ letters are great for making shorter phrases on my small board… …or bigger phrases on my oversized board! Why is the carpet all wet, Todd?? My jam in life right now is diffusing these two oils (4 drops homebody blend 2 drops fir needle) because it instantly smells like Christmas and I can’t get enough! Right now this is my favorite diffuser to use in our bedroom if you need one (and it’s the cutest one I’ve ever seen). Still my favorite Christmas marquee I’ve done! It turned out just how I envisioned it…I’m so excited that I actually get to put presents into Lola’s stocking this year. I feel like putting anything out ahead of Christmas may be a huge mistake with a toddler so it’s all still in a drawer in my office for now. I want to show her the Charlie Brown Christmas cartoon and treat her to some warm chocolate (i.e. hot chocolate at the kid’s temp!) and marshmallows soon so that’s on our list for this weekend! Hope you are warm and cozy wherever you are!

xo. Laura

November 23, 2018

What Happened When I Logged Off Instagram For A Month

I feel like this post is about two things: one— the thoughts that went through my head before, during, and after the only social media break I’ve ever taken since it became a thing at some point in the last 10-15 years, and two— how I’ve noticed the general tide beginning to shift for a lot of my friends that are also social media users/creators.

When I logged off for a month I was pretty surprised at the responses of “I wish I could do that” or “I just decided to do that too” or even “I actually just deleted my account recently” from friends of mine. I started asking people that said those things if they were hearing similar thoughts from other friends as well, and they all answered with a resounding “yes!”

Why is that? What’s happening?

I obviously don’t have a definite answer that covers everyone’s reason for wanting to pull away some (or a lot) from social media lately, but I have a few ideas why based on my own experience and what I’ve heard from others as well. Here are a few top reasons that I think are a part of this recent trend:

It takes up too much of the day: I became so much more connected to how I spend my time once I became a Mom (free-time in particular is SO limited now) but I hear this from non-Moms too. When time is such a precious thing to you, you really start to question how you use it and what return you are getting from what you put your time into. I think for some people, it can feel like they are spending so much time on social media rather than living their real life with the people who are right in front of them, and depending on what types of accounts you follow (I think this choice can be a big part of this too) you may not feel like you are enriched in any way once you actually put the phone down or close your laptop.

The pressure to be perfect/creative all the damn time: Whether you have 10 or 100,000 followers online, it can feel like a constant struggle to always be posting content that is on-brand, on-message, visually appealing, witty, and also several times a day. It’s a lot. It’s hard not to think “what do people want to see” and “what will be the most popular” rather than “what makes me happy” or “what am I proud of” when deciding what to post. And speaking as a person whose brain naturally gravitates towards wanting all their aesthetics to match and coordinate in every area of life (it feels like a disease at times!), wanting and needing my grid to “match” can feel a bit like an obsession and be visually unsettling when it’s not all color coordinated. Do you even remember Instagram before having your feed color co-ordinate was a thing??  Letting go of that grip on your brain can feel so freeing.

The jealousy, oh the jealousy: I’ll put jealousy under these headings as well, but it really deserves a whole post to itself which maybe someday I’ll have the time to write. Being jealous of strangers is no good (especially when you have no idea if what you are jealous of is actually real or how much effort went into making their home/life/outfits looks so effortlessly curated all the time) but being jealous of your actual real-life friends online is really no good. That will not lead to a deeper relationship—it’s basically a connection killer, and therefore a friendship killer, if you ask me.

The fakeness/vapidity of a lot of content: I think this one also speaks to what kind of accounts you follow so some people may see more of this than others, but even though I don’t follow accounts that make me feel this way, I know how many of them are out there as I see them on the explore page, etc. I don’t think this means that every post should have so much deep meaning and soul-crushing-real talk (I mean, that’s a lot to handle for every post) but I think we’ve all seen accounts that just feel…kind of empty. There’s not really much being created, or a positive message being spoken, it’s just kind of curated white noise that most likely looks pretty but doesn’t actually stir anything positive within you.

They connect with people less: Sometimes, especially with our actual friends we follow online, it can be tempting to catch up on their life online and say that the friend itch is satisfied and no further action is needed besides a “like” and perhaps a comment. Remember before social media when you called, texted, or hung out in person with people to hear what they’ve been up to and what joys and struggles they are experiencing? Social media can have such an amazing power to connect people but for some it also keeps them from engaging in a more personal one-on-one way that they would have before that was their main connecting thread.


Ok, so now that we’ve covered a few of the issues that have been maybe boiling over for some people lately, here’s my personal thoughts on the situation and why I still decided to come back to Instagram after my month break.

Before the break: I had actually been trying to tweak my social media mindset for months once I realized how I started to feel about it. I was feeling that pressure to create ah-maaazing content that everyone should want to see like I mention above, and it was becoming a heavy feeling that felt draining. I could tell I was starting to care too much when a post did or didn’t do well, and it felt so silly to be affected by it so I wanted to wipe that care from my mind. Also, I was also feeling that I needed about 10 hours more in each day to complete everything I wanted to get done, so the time drain was also a big factor—I’ve been rather terrible at self-care lately and I wanted to create space and say “yes” to more things I should be saying yes to and “no” to what’s really not important right now. So, I decided to take a break from Instagram (and my blog as well) just to see how I felt without them.

During the break: I kind of didn’t want to announce the break since sometimes social media breaks can feel like a self-important HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT THAT EVERYONE NEEDS TO BE AWARE AND PREPARE FOR THE LIFE-CHANGING IMPACT, but I also didn’t want to concern any sweet people that would probably wonder and worry that something happened to us (Lola especially) after radio silence for a few weeks, so I made a simple post, logged off, and moved the app icon on my phone to the last page instead of the first. NOW, it wasn’t a total true break in every sense as I did log in most days to a work IG account since I needed to be involved there for my day job, but it still felt a lot different not using my personal account. It felt quieter in a small way in the back corner of my brain rather instantly.

The biggest thing I could tangibly notice was that two weeks in to the break I had taken exactly 1 photo of Lola and 0 photos of myself in two weeks. For a Mom with a smart phone in 2018, that’s a little crazy and it kind of freaked me out! I put that phenomenon on the pro and the con though list if I’m being honest. I loved the freedom from not owing anyone any photos of anything, so I just didn’t take any, but at the same time, I know that looking back some of my favorite photos of Lola or Todd and me were ones that I would have wanted to take but that “TAKE ALL THE PHOTOS” voice was probably the thing that actually made me pick up a camera or phone to do it. So, I guess that means that some of that voice is good for me as it causes me to make an effort to document some sweet moments I would like to remember, but too much of it can feel dictator-like and just plain overwhelming. I’m also learning lately the importance of not taking photos of everything that you want to remember as studies actually show you remember it better when you aren’t stuck behind a screen or a lens during the moment so I’ve been thinking about when I want that to apply in my life as well.

Ok, now can we be really honest? I also loved the break from what is basically my 4th email inbox (I have 3 other emails that I check every day for work, this blog, and personal other stuff). I love being able to pass on recommendations or help other people with questions about something I’ve done, a project I’ve completed, or a Mom-related issue, but it can be hard to answer each one in a way that feels kind, thorough, and thoughtful in a small amount of time. I’ve even stopped myself from doing stories about something cool or a new weird thing I’m trying etc. because I know I’ll get a ton of questions about it and I desperately want to be able to answer every one with a personal answer and I just don’t have the time to do that most days. That roadblock would especially bother me when it was something I really wanted to share because I thought it could be so helpful to someone else, but I was stopped by the knowledge that I just didn’t have the energy or time to be everyone’s personal guide through all the questions that would likely come up from mentioning it. That sucks. I think I had to accept that I can’t always be available to everyone like the helper side of me wants to be—sometimes you have to set limits, even on good things like helping, to keep yourself a little more sane or learn to try and help in better ways. For example, I realize it’s easier to have a discussion on something in an Instagram post rather than stories since I can see all the comments in one spot, rather than lots of separate messages, so replying to questions is faster and everyone can see the answers and learn communally.

Also, I realized during the break that I really missed my online Mom Community! I do have some amazingly kind and wise Mom friends that let me pester them with lots of questions all the time, but it’s so amazing to call out into the online world for Mom help and get overwhelmed (in the best sense!) with lots of caring thoughtful advice. That feature of social media has been very dear to me and I am thrilled any time I hear from another Mother that watching me go through something publicly was helpful to them in someway too.

After the break: Once the month had ended and I logged back in, I decided to make some simple changes to help keep all the best parts of Instagram for me (Mom community, seeing my friends and what they are up to, trying to be a positive voice in the social media Wild West) and diminish some of the negatives. I turned off the setting where you can reply to stories to help make the inbox a little lighter hoping that people would still feel free to DM me if they had a question that they felt was a little more pressing (which happily, seems to be working out that way!) and that has helped a lot. I definitely want to say though, don’t ever be afraid to email me or message me if you do have a question or thought for me! Depending on how the week/month is going I may be able to answer more or not as many as I’d like but please don’t be put off from trying if there’s something that you really need help with.

I also have cut back on the amount of time I spend per day on the app just browsing around in the feed and unfollowing accounts that haven’t really been adding much to my life. It has to be OK not to see everyone’s post and be totally caught up on everything—the world will keep turning.

I also have an ongoing effort to just post whatever makes me happy, whenever I feel like it, and let that be my guide to how “well” I’m doing online rather than through amount of likes and followers. If I have 3 photos that make me happy, I’ll post them all! If I don’t feel like being on my account for 4 days, I’ll see you when I get back! And if you want to know a secret, I’ve lost about 600 followers since I came back from my break—maybe it’s related to changes I’ve implemented, maybe it’s a coincidence, I don’t know. But you know what? I don’t care. I really don’t. Maybe those people just don’t find me interesting—that’s ok! Maybe my grid isn’t pretty enough for them—that’s ok! Maybe my grid is too pretty for them—that’s ok! None of that really matters in the grand scheme of life and you can’t be all things to all people anyways. I just need to be me and that’s enough. To try and be an honest and kind voice in a space that loves to whisper to people that they aren’t enough. They are enough. You are enough. And anyone that wants to hang out there with me and be enough together is welcome.

Final words: All that being said, I have no hard data to back up what seems to be happening to people I’ve connect with on this—maybe overall social media use is actually up and this is just a small pocket of the population, but while it may be more of a thing with my age range of friends (do 18-year-olds have these issues with Instagram? IDK!), I do think something is happening and I’m glad that it is. Most any tool, any invention can be used for positive or negative purposes and I hope that we can be wise enough together to notice and gently encourage each other to swing back the other direction when we feel things are getting out of hand and reprioritize when needed.

I, for one, am happiest when I live life for myself and my family and pop into my social online world for some virtual hugs, a few high fives, and commiserating as needed. I want to take pictures because it makes me happy (and I think it’s OK that things like Mommy/Daughter matching outfits make me smile so I probably will take photos of those!) but I don’t want to feel like I need to live my life “for the photos” because I really, really, don’t. I hope you work at finding a balance that makes you happy too!

xo. Laura

November 20, 2018
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Whatever Lola Wants…

How is it Thanksgiving week already!? While winter in general goes SO SLOW for me, the holiday part is always over in the blink of an eye but this year Lola is a little older and so I hope we can include her on some more fun traditions this year so I’m really looking forward to that. Here’s what else I’m loving this week!

Lola wore this knitted romper to a birthday party this weekend and all the Moms wanted to know where it was from. I kept saying that she looks like a cute hipster Pinocchio—haha!

Thinking about getting these vintage-inspired toddler snow boots so we’re ready for our first snow of the year. I know for sure Lola will want to go out in snow so we better be ready in case we get some!

Most of you know how common runny noses are for toddlers in the winter months and since we are trying to be better and better at buying reusable things I bought these to catch all the drips and throw them in the wash to reuse again. So far, the organic cotton feels super soft when blowing your nose so I’m excited to see how we like them in the long run.


Bought this for a holiday season outfit (maybe paired with some tall socks) and it’s going to be sooo cute.

Just ordered these in the toddler and Mommy size so we can have matching Christmas pajamas. I wanted to get a more winter/holiday pattern at first, but these were juuuust too cute to pass up and we can wear them after the holidays are over too!

I love these styles of hairclips but Lola pulls them out pretty fast so maybe I should use one of these for her little topknot to get that pom hair instead….

Just the sweetest little doll pram.

I’ve realized that little girl dress shoes can be a tough category but I’m going to try either these or these to go with her holiday looks this year. I fell down carpeted stairs and broke my collarbone when I was 5 due to a slippery-bottomed pair of Mary Janes so I have a bit of a phobia of little girl’s dress shoes and hopefully Lola won’t have to repeat that ordeal!

We got two of these cutie organic cotton winter-weight sleepsacks for Lola again this year and they are sooo cozy that I can tell she likes to be zipped into them for night and naptimes—I’m totally jealous.

We will be in Illinois this week with Todd’s family and I can’t wait to see Lola get loved on by all her family and cousins who are waiting to see her. Traveling with a toddler is never easy and I feel like the car challenges change every few months so we’ll see how it goes! Also, last year on the same trip is when we totaled our car at night on the highway when we hit a deer, so majorly praying that doesn’t repeat itself this time! Happy Thanksgiving!

xo. Laura

October 30, 2018
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Happy Halloween!

In case you guys missed it, I wanted to show you the family Halloween costumes we did this year over on A Beautiful Mess! Todd was out on tour last year when we did our mermaid Mom + Baby look, so this was our first attempt at a family look so we did two because I couldn’t pick just one…I still can’t get enough of these pics of Lola as Baby Elton John and us as her Crocodile Rock companions—IT’S JUST TOOOOO MUCH! Those glasses really make it perfect. 

We also did a totally excellent Wayne’s World edition with a Wayne, Baby Garth, and Cassandra. I tell ya, it’s quite the challenge to do not one, but two costumes with a toddler where they have to wear glasses of some sort, but it was totally worth it!
Doesn’t she look just like him??

I love this little outtake photo of Lola in her EJ suit (it’s a recreation of this look). She’s looks like a little Halloween Disco Angel and it’s such a sweet little moment…

Not sure which one we will break out for tomorrow night and trick or treating! Looks like the weather will be good, so we’ll just see which costume she’s in the mood for. I got her a little pumpkin bucket so I think that’s actually going to be her favorite thing of the night—Happy Halloween!

xo. Laura

Photos by Amber Ulmer